Heraclitus (500 B.C.)
Tests for whether a behavior displays high or low character – it is high character if:
• it contributes to the betterment of both society and the individual.
• the action will bring honor to your name.
So, what are the behaviors that define character?
(The four cardinal virtues)
Don’t make reckless choices. Use good judgement. Analyze, compare, calculate & project.
Accurate critical thinking (what’s true, what’s false, what’s relevant).
Open-minded. Flexible. Lack of prejudice or bias.
Keep things in perspective – don’t make mountains out of molehills.
Don’t advantage yourself, your family or friends at the expense of others.
Seek first to understand before seeking to be understood. See the other person’s viewpoint.
The “something for nothing” attitude is wrong.
Moral courage. Do the hard thing. Have the hard conversation, in a diffident manner.
Face your harsh realities. Encounter adversity or bear pain with a pleasant disposition.
Gallantry in life’s struggles. To Dare. “There is safety in valor.” – Emerson
Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage. – Anais Nin
Appetites and passions in balance. No vices. Self-control in communication as well as actions. Self-discipline.
Rule your emotions. Don’t raise voice and display anger. Stay detached from other’s disharmony. Poise.
Self-denial. Thrift. Save some percent of every paycheck. “Utter valiant ‘no’s’ instead of ruinous ‘yes’s’.” – Emerson
The personality traits which produce our strengths can become our weaknesses, if not kept in balance (all things in moderation). Vigilantly strive to uncover, examine, admit and battle your shortcomings, in the ongoing struggle to improve how you behave. “I don’t excuse my failings, I confront them.”
Dreams. Worthwhile goals. The “Will” to improve yourself, your organization & or society.
Strong desire. Devotion to a great cause. Drive to achieve one’s potential – To make the most of life.
Aspiration – longing for something better. There are no successes without aspirations.
“Ordinary goals keep people ordinary. Life’s successes result from a lofty aim.” – Brownlow
Action toward a definite purpose. In earnest. Diligent effort. Industrious.
A hard thinker as much as a hard worker.
Initiative. Determination to succeed. Orderly. Quality workmanship.
Single-minded Persistence in spite of obstacles. Don’t allow yourself an “exit strategy”.
Focus. Endurance. Take the long-term view. “The virtue lies in the struggle.” – A. A. Milne
Most great endeavors require a “perseverance” stage. Resolute determination can change the outcome.
Providence comes to the aid of the person who fights on even after the battle seems lost.
Doing what’s right when nobody’s looking – J.C. Watts. Truthful. Full disclosure. Sincere.
Pure of heart. Candor. Forthright. Fidelity. Don’t equivocate or exaggerate. Pay debts on time.
“I don’t lie, cheat, steal or tolerate those who do.” – West Point honor code.
Afraid of no truth – Thom. Jefferson Honest self-assessment.
Don’t lie to yourself. What harms us is to persist in self-deceit – Marcus Aurelius
Uphold the Golden Rule: treat others the way you’d like to be treated. Friendly. Mild. Gentle.
Regard for the other person’s feelings. Take a genuine interest in people.
Compassion. Tolerance. Forgiveness. Forbearance. Mercy.
“You can depend on me.” Take the blame for your failures. Trustworthy. Decisive & Self-reliant.
Careful observance of duty, as a: grown child, sibling, spouse, parent, employee or employer.
Instead of seeing yourself as a victim, search for the role “you played” in your negative outcomes.
Nature requires that we earn what we get, and that we get what we earn.
Be a good servant – to your spouse, your family, your customers, your co-workers & your subordinates.
Constructive. Helpful. Promote harmony. Be a peacemaker. Encourage others. Altruism.
“You can have everything in life you want if you help enough other people get what they want.” – Zig Ziglar
“Extraordinary success is achieved by making those around you successful.” – Citrin & Smith
Continuous learning, development, and growth in your field of interest, resulting in ever-increasing competence.
Introspection. A life-long process of 1)self-searching 2)education and 3)applying what you learn.
A thirst for self-improvement. Exploring. Discovering. Learn from your failures.
“The purpose of education is not knowledge – it is right action.” – Herbert Spencer
Living an examined life will liberate and transform us.
Optimistic. Cheerful. Upbeat. Zeal. Vigor. Internal Locus of Control – believing you can influence your outcomes.
Humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.
The willingness to admit our faults; to apologize; to accept criticism; to give others the credit.
It allows us to see how our wrong thinking or wrong actions have hurt us in the past.
Playing the “big shot” turns others against us and harms our outcomes.
Be courteous & polite. Treat others with dignity. Be punctual. Avoid foul language.
Show respect for all persons and their property. Have respect for yourself.
“The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” – William James
Show your appreciation. Count your blessings.
Toward noble people and high ideals.
One indicator of high character is a large number of long relationships.
Charity. Charitably interpret the actions of others. Goodwill for others.
Give with no expectation of return, to family, in-laws, neighbors & fellow citizens in a jam.
The power of generosity to make a life of prosperity and consequence.
If you study the lives of people who have achieved above average “destinies”
you can trace the source back to the “character traits” listed here.
This is the whole list. So if you are good at these then you are of high character …